I remember in one of my 'transitional churches' before my current one, we were sitting down talking about 'something' before. I wasn't really sure if there were any side topics leading up to this one, but eventually, I think we were talking about the subject of 'dating/courting'.
Funny how also we had mentioned the topic of Urbana that night at the ‘BBTea&restaurant’ and a few Urbanas and another Christian history course later we are kind of ‘back to the same old story’. Recently, in the last two years I’ve also been receiving some relationship coaching as a ‘side project’ from professional therapists. I realize that although it isn’t entirely myself who is deciding not to ‘date’, I might finally be understanding what IL meant in his ‘parody of K Arthur’.
I believe I did write another blog entry previously closer to the date of this actual event but may not have gone into a lot of details, so let’s go back and first revisit some of the dialogue/theology discussed that night. I feel an overall sense that what my friends were trying to point out to me that night was an important lesson I didn’t then realize would be very applicable and ‘prophetic’ [Acts 2] is overall that I 'shouldn't get too hung up on any one girl'. So let's quickly recap some of the quotes from that night:
"You've been to one Urbana, BUT IT'S NOT THE ONLY Urbana..." [AW]
"I think it's cool though... if it doesn't work out with one girl, he moves on to the next... YOU KNOW, like MOVING ON..." [JY]
"Recently, I've been reading this author, K Arthur... total Male Chauvinist... Serve God, Serve God. We don't need women..." [IL]
"He killed all the women man..." [IL]
"Remember K____, Josh Harris was a complementarian as well.." [IL]
'You might find the world outside of LB__ a much more savage place than you remembered...' [K____]
When I couldn't go back to sleep earlier, God revealed to me that I had been procrastinating this entry. I was also reminded that I mostly forgot all of the conversations that night except for the 'take away' at the very last 4 direct quotes and was reminded of my own 'prophecy' in that last one that is a slight paraphrase. I remember once how IL had commented that 'a lot of my blogs don't seem to make any sense'. I think it can be the style I write my blog that only people who actually know me more personally, including myself can usually be clued into the full context of the situation(s) I'm writing on. In interest of understanding the 'context' of this particular post though, I will point out that we were just sitting around and hanging out and I believe just like in the past how I used to relate myself sometimes to the Biblical King David, that my friends here were likely trying to do a '1 Samuel 12 thing' here in being nonchalant and quite indirect in what they were trying to communicate to me with kind of 'reversed results'.
I didn't end up being in much regular contact with this group of people for some years after this event and it wasn't necessarily anything personal against the thing(s) they said or did, some other stuff happened that ended up separating our relationships, including the fact that I eventually got called and migrated to a different church altogether. This is part of the 'go west' calling I maybe mentioned to some of my friends. But aside from eventually losing connection with that group and other groups I have known in the past, I have learned another important lesson that it is also important not to 'get too hung up over human relationships' in general as ultimately we live for God, not others. This was and still is an important lesson and life principle to keep in mind. As although I didn't pursue every female I thought it might have been nice to be married to, most of them are now already married to other people. So I feel kind of like KK feels like in the text shown in the picture below:
I may not have had a conversation of that nature with some of those females. However, if you believe marriage is completely a free choice, it makes for 'a bad theological combination' because the only logical conclusion as to why a person didn't get married to a person he or she wanted to get married to is because the other person chose not to marry you. I try to live my life the way KB pointed out in one of her sermons regarding ‘inheritance’ that in the end “none of that mattered” [KB] and whether I’m married or not doesn’t necessarily affect or is factored in the evaluation of the other aspects of how I lived life [1 Corinthians 7:17-31, 1 Peter 3:15-17].
The interesting thing is I am adding everything following this sentence as a revision to 'fix' this entry a bit kind of like how last night for whatever reason the link to the first picture from Kellers' book was 'broken' when I was trying to view it last night but it is now 'fix'ed. "Speaking of Broken...":
As inspired by BC recently, I will "return to the Genesis Narrative"...
The Lord Said:
"This is a broken bone like my bones [https://life-of-agent-k.blogspot.com/search?q=swan+neck+deformity]
and the flesh of my Flesh;
he shall be called 'K___,'
for he was rebirthed through the Son of Man." :)
[modified Genesis 2:23]
I just realized how repetitive I was in some of my messages to one of my female friends last night, I guess it really is true, as PW/BO or BLL would put it:
"He's Old Testament..." [https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1596343/characters/nm0908094?ref_=tt_cl_t2]
