I am finding my writing skills to be rusty, but I'm slowly trying to brush off the metaphorical cobwebs.
Taylor Swift strikes again! [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e-ORhEE9VVg] Wow.... Ironically, around 8 years ago, around the time when a close friend of mine was getting married, I always wanted to attend a wedding with a certain person named after a certain then well known eastern singer; however like a certain friend of mine said of his admiration for Rachel McAdams, "Taylor Swift is still my girl..." haha...This song happened to come on the PA system right on cue when I was doing some reflection about the world and its true nature. And I've come to the same general conclusion as I was taught some years ago, but with a corollary. The reason why pop (popular) music is such a hit with most people is because they are 'looking for love in all the wrong places' and the most common fallacy is trying to seek it in a significant other that isn't Jesus Christ. To quote an old prophecy from the archives a friend of mine who is now in professional ministry said once:
(can't find the quote so just going to go by memory) "If you can't find complete satisfaction in Christ, you're never going to find it in a girl.." [1.0] I assumed he spoke out of experience given the differences in his life circumstances from mine at the time.
I noticed Taylor Swift uses two interesting elements in her music video that have a strong correlation to my past experiences with this particular aspect of my life. Without getting too personal on my public blog, the elements are 'White horses' (like her song which helped me pull through 'the long drive home' some years ago) and the fact that the setting of this music video seems to have the same setting as that movie Cruel Intentions. Not to imply I was in fact that 'cruel', but maybe perceived inaccurately to be like that you could word it. Brings me to another point that another issue is the media portrays a lot of emo drama as an expected part of any romance, but while I agree it can happen in some, it would be a 'bad idea' to expect your romantic relationship will necessarily have a lot of emo drama.
I have to admit it was definitely a shocker to my system that when I had finally gotten comfortable with the gift of singleness that God suddenly started to open my eyes to show me suddenly that MAYBE He actually wants to bestow the gift of marriage onto me instead. Or perhaps similar to my experience recently with misplacing my cellphone for an entire 12 hrs and the irony of it being right by my side but only having the one usable internet connection at home to try to locate it, I couldn't cause it wasn't connected to the internet, which was weird, cause when I found it I discovered cellular data option was still switched on. Similar to how at my previous church they were discussing the inauguration of my previous English Pastor and how they said they discerned that he has the 'gift' (for ministry I presume) that maybe just like my phone, I perhaps had the gift of marriage all along, it just wasn't yet time for me to start putting it into use. There was also another ironic thing I saw when taking the bus home after working out at the gym, the bus driver had just finished his shift and he was giving instructions to a noticeably younger bus driver as to what she'll need to know when beginning hers.
So going onto the important stuff, what is my personal viewpoint on the gift of marriage in a nutshell? Well I wrote in much more detail on how marriage affect's one's ministry some years ago. And AH HA...just when I thought if I wanted to look at what I wrote earlier I would have to try to dig up my old laptop, I am forgetting one key element, it was for an ONLINE course so I should actually have it sitting in my email somewhere for easier access. Anyway, let's go with my original plan to do a summary of what I think is healthy imagery and definition of a blessed marriage. I think a healthy marriage is very much like the tree in Psalm 1:3 that bears fruit at the right time. Also going along the lines of gardening, I believe this verse also speaks a lot about marriage: "I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow." 1 Corinthians 3:6. Although I agree there obviously is free will in marriage, I also believe if the couple does not make God the foundation [Luke 6:43-49] that fruit will not continue to regrow healthy and you'll just end up with a whole bunch wasted efforts [Matthew 13, note also the explanation of the sower parable]. The concluding thought I leave you to 'drive home' with you is this, just like the way Joshua Harris terms it in his book, I believe it was the second one "Boy Meets Girl" where he says Adam probably told his daughter that things only "seem" more complicated with more options in terms of whom one can choose as a mate, "you just need to trust the Creator to bring what is good..." And honestly, let's face it, just like with all long term decisions in life, do you truly believe you know what is best for yourself and His Kingdom or maybe Jesus does?
Although I am not seeking the 'ideal secular (non-Christ centeric)' version of marriage. I pray I can aspire to be what a Christ centered marriage should look like with my previous original aspiration from my youth to be 'nothing like my (biological) father...'
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